Skip to main content

5 Ways to Help you FORGIVE your Spouse

Making mistakes is only natural; and as partners, it is only normal to have misunderstandings once in a while.

When these mistakes happen, and one of the spouses is angry and/or hurt, what stops the relationship from going downhill is forgiveness.
How to forgive your spouse

We understand that forgiving is easier said than done, especially when you were really offended or hurt by what your partner did, or if that action is a recurrent one.
In these instances, forgiveness might not be so easy to grant, but with the steps below, you could learn to not only forgive, but also forget more easily .

1. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt

There is always more than one angle to view an issue from. Before you jump into a fit of rage, why not rest easy for a moment, take a deep breath and consider your options.
According to an american  marriage and relationship expert Lesli Doares, "choosing the interpretation that puts your partner in the most positive light makes forgiveness a whole lot easier."

2. Put yourself in your partner's shoe

Ask yourself this question, "If you had done something similar and your partner was angry, would you want to be forgiven?" Most likely yes, right? Now do unto them what you would have them do to you.
What to do to forgive your spouse

3. Reflect on everything good in your partner and relationship

Do you want to let go of your partner because he forgot one or two details of a long conversation you had last night when he has actually been remembering several others for the past 5 years you both have been together?
Casting your mind on the good things that come with that partner is usually good enough to help you forgive them. Surely there are several good things about them that will overshadow that single mistake or maybe two. Love is about compromises, anyway, isn't it?

4. Forgive unconditionally

Don't let your forgiveness be granted only after a request is met by your partner. What this does in the long term, is to make your spouse immune to the feeling of guilt and the need to offer a true, remorseful apology.
The moment they know they can get your forgiveness by meeting some certain condition, you might as well forget about any hopes of genuine repentance.

5. Ask if you played a part in the problem

We all love to display some holy indignation when we are wronged, but hardly ever do we ask ourselves how we are part of the problem.
Taking that step, asking yourself if by commission or omission you might have played a part in making your partner do what they did, it might help you grant them forgiveness more easily.
When you forgive, you in no way change the past, but you sure do change the future
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

we love to hear from you

Popular posts from this blog

YOU ARE INDESTRUCTIBLE

“Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth for ever “(1Peter 1:23 ). Jesus said in Luke 8:11 that the Word of God is seed, which means you were born of God’s incorruptible seed when you were born again. The Word seed is translate from the Greek word “Sperma”. That is where the English word “Sperm” came from. So the opening Scripture should actually read: “being born again not of corruptible sperm but of incorruptible, by the sperm of God which liveth and abideth forever”. Understand that when you are b orn again, you are born of God’s sperm – His word. This is what makes you indestructible. The Life in you is sickness, disease and death resistant. You have the life of God, and that makes you supernatural. The same life that makes God who he is, now flows I your spirit, soul and body. Your life is no longer dependant of blood that flows through your physical body. The blood of man is the life of the f...
17 comments
Read more

DON'T QUACK LIKE DUCKS, SOAR LIKE AN EAGLE

I received this story this morning, it came in so timely and thought I should share ... Enjoy Good article. DUCKS QUACK WHILE EAGLES SOAR   I was waiting in line for a ride at the airport,when a cab pulled up; the first thing I noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine, smartly dressed in a white shirt, black tie and freshly pressed black slacks.  The cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for me. He handed me a laminated card and said: I'm Wasiu, your driver.  While I'm loading your bags in the trunk I'd like u to read my mission statement.' Taken aback, I read the card; It said: Wasiu's Mission Statement:   " To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment" .   This blew me away. Especially when I noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!  As he slid behind the wheel, Wasiu sa...
6 comments
Read more

10 Keys To SUCCESS

Success does not belong to a select few; success belongs to “you,” if you’re willing to go after it. Success is never handed out, you must take it, but you don’t take it by force.  You take success by becoming a successful person internally.  When you succeed on the inside, by taking on the thoughts of a successful person, the results will show on the outside. Today I want to talk about seven life changing keys to success; these concepts will alter your life if you implement them. Seven Life Changing Keys to Success : Do and Dare “ The person who gets the farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The ‘sure-thing’ boat never gets far from shore. ” – Dale Carnegie Are you daring to do the impossible?  There should never be a time in your life when you’re not attempting something impossible.  It is the impossible that stretches you and shows you what you can become. Do and dare, get out of your comfort zone and stretch y...
2 comments
Read more